Hey all! Here comes summer!

Wow-here comes summer again, reminding us all how men make the world go 'round and the girls just die for a chance to stand in line and watch us work our charm and magic! Well, I have been super busy showing those living in my world how awesome I am and working hard to make my ex-wife and son believe it...and getting to the more mundane stuff like my responsibilities has been difficult. So let's help each other kick summer right where it counts! Share your stories and ask your questions...GO!

Ineffective teachers and gullible parent/victims-BE WARNED!

Occasionally an opportunity to be a true leader just offers itself up. Take for example the recent movement of ineffective teachers and their brainwashing campaign to get gullible parents to join them in destroying the futures of children. Fortunately, someone from The State has stepped up to take charge. Sometimes, great results require great individuals to impose greatness. Hopefully whoever came up with this will join me in the campaign of greatness. When I become the leader of people I know I already am, and I can prove to my stubborn ex-wife and all the ladies around me that my side is the side to be on, the world will be a better place for all children.

 Here is the recent response from The State to the parent/educator conspiracy to have input in the education of public school children:

To: Parent/Guardian Victims

From: The State

Re: The opt/out movement and "refusal code" letters that are showing up

April 2013

Dear Parent/Guardian victims of the "opt-out/refuse" virus,

    First, The State would like to say that "school reform" is now being called "school improvement'. The feeling is that your pain will be eased when you think it will be made better: improvement!-instead of being told it's happening because you were bad to begin with: reform : (

      It is unfortunate that you have been put in harm's way by uncooperative agents of The State and/or your lack of understanding of the parent/guardian role in the corporate-political mechanism and its "School Improvement Agenda". The new common core learning standards, the new curriculum that no-bid contract winners will be paid state budget money to create, the inexperienced yet well-financed and protected education authorities and reformers trying to tell you that they know best how to judge what good teaching is, and the disappearing funds that once went to your schools should all have been enough to prompt your quiet compliance.

    The State has the best interests of your non-wealthy public school students in mind.

    The objectives of The State, (The Governor, The Ed Commissioner, SED) and the framing of the agenda have been consistent:

1) public school teachers are bad, make too much money, and administrators and communities aren't capable of getting rid of them

and

2) the new common core curriculum and the tests that come with it, as well as the mining and selling of your personal data are the salvation of young learners (that don't attend the charters and private schools education leaders send their children to).

    Those two rationales are really different ways of saying the exact same thing: "The State knows best". To spend too much time investigating the truth in or strength of either way of saying it only puts The State in the position of needing to pay lawyers again to help come up with more ways to say it to make you listen and comply.

    That is why the recent surge in the "opt out" movement is concerning. In New York, where the state recognizes no parent/guardian authority to opt their children out of state tests, a letter is surfacing that takes advantage of a regulatory loophole-a scoring code for "refusal" and an assumed right of parents to make decisions for their non-emancipated children in the supposed best interest of those children.

     Rest assured The State is working hard to find ways to close the confusing loopholes that allow parents and guardians to make those types of decisions. Not only will public school employees face dismissal, loss of teaching licenses and possibly jail time for non-compliance with testing protocol, but school districts under advisement from The State will be tightening up student conduct codes to make sure disciplinary procedures are in place for students not complying and parents not cooperating.

    "In loco parentis" will be replaced by "instead of parentis".

     Schools will be tightening up their policies in order to support The State's School Improvement Agenda, and that means The State now is "the parent" not just during the day and in the school, but instead of you when you don't do what we want.

     Teachers will confirm that they are duty bound to execute test administration in accordance with state guidelines. They have been told in as many ways as possible that their job, their teaching license, and possibly their freedom will be lost if they participate in activities that are contrary to mandates of the state.

     Your local administrators will echo the importance of multiple standardized measures and their importance relative to the future of your children. Please don't bother them with questions about constitutional rights as parents to make decisions for your children,

     Please don't ask them about your rights as citizens to band together with other concerned parents to make sure your local BOE knows you care.

     Please don't be influenced by others who have already organized and ask openly about the dichotomy between what is being sold as a path to success and what the successful selling it choose as a path for their own children.

     Please don't get on the internet to look up the addresses and phone numbers of your local legislators, SED Commissioners, or your governors to make your voice heard.

    In the end, those actions just muddy The State's message with the foul smell of democracy.

    Submit your children, and we will do the rest.

Sincerely,

The State

A Manly Update, and a Call to All!

Spring has sprung, and summer is approaching! With signs of renewal and growth comes the re-dedication
to our old goals-and the setting of some that are new. Take, for example, my never ending battle to bring some peace and common sense to the life of my ex-wife, and free our children from her depraved, destructive, unskilled and non-supportive money-grubbing absentee style of parenting. Well, free my son at least. I'm sure my little girl will somehow survive staying with that woman because at least she'll find a man someday.



My god given mission is to train my son well so that all his ladies will understand what true manliness is all about. Sadly, as stubborn ex-ladies often do, I am confronted daily-blocked even, from being the kind of man and the kind of dad I COULD be, if I only had some more money. To begin with, the lifestyle of men requires drinking money, dating money, getting out on the town in style money, keeping up appearances money...and women know this, even someone as self-centered as my wife! Despite these facts, my ex expects me to pay her for the babies she had. I know, I know..I helped make them, but when I went out to find other women, her job was to be a mother and remain proud that her man would still come home to her-most of the time. I mean, there was that spell where I took off to be a bachelor for a few months and work on that pretty young thing I'd met at work-but I told my wife I was coming back. What more could she have wanted? Counseling??? Well, you know counselors: right away it was my fault. Can you believe it? Here I am coming back, and it's my fault, not my wife's for not just getting back with the program. Well, now here we are, with her raising the kids, washing clothes, being there day in and day out...and here I am having to pay her. Where is the justice?


      To me, her failing to give me the freedom to be out spreading manliness while she kept my home and kids cancels her right to any money, Also my constantly pointing out what a horrible mother and person she is should be enough for the courts to let me legally have my son and not have to pay her anything. I try to train my son to let her know in as many
ways as possible what a failure she is, and how much better he would be living with me, but he's only 12 and hasn't been able to wear her down yet. She just hasn't gotten the message.



 If I didn't have to pay her, and I had legal custody of my son, I would still leave him with his horrible mother most of the time (I do have to be out meeting new ladies), BUT I would be a happier dad-and happy dads are better dads. I know the court will see it my way eventually. I do have a way with words and more brains than all those lawyers, judges and family court people put together. She'll probably have to pay a lawyer who ALSO won't be as smart as me. I continually try to text and email her into having some common sense, and people I know tell me that the way I am will get all around the small town we live in, and that people I don't even know won't understand. They throw around words like "narcissist", "psychopath" and "shouldn't be around children". But great men usually start out as misunderstood men. And as the great thinker John Cassis said:

"It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice"


So men, especially manly men, write in with your ideas. How can I make sure I am important and everyone knows it-and more importantly, how do I make sure everyone knows how important and nice I am?

Passing the Torch

     Sometimes men, and the pursuit of being manly, requires one to prepare. Someday, after all, even men have to pass on the torch of manliness. It's fortunate that sons come to them. While the many women may attest to the flame, they are not adequate keepers of it or carriers of the torch.

     My son makes me proud. I cannot be there at every moment to ensure my presence is felt-the courts in their so-called wisdom believe they can schedule my contact and proximity. My son, though, can be-at least until I manage to figure out a way to get him and some of my money back from my ex. I have the duty to train him well. He needs to be awesome, remind his mother of her foolishness in letting me get away, and be an example of my awesomeness for the other ladies around me. How many of you are almost as lucky as me?  He is the apple of my eye, my cold hand of reality that will help me keep my ex aware of reality when I can't. At such a young age, he already let's her know of how much better she should be. I know I've done my job as a father. Someday he will make a fine manager of some lucky ladies.

Stay Important My Friends!

Some words to live by in the new year:

It's important to be nice when you have to be, but it's even nicer for people to know you're important.

This is a lesson I learned the hard way. When my last ex wouldn't accept my level of manly as a gift to her and our kids, she was forgetting this cardinal rule. I had the all the "nice" for her she needed, and it should've been enough to show her how "important" I was to her. The girls I was seeing behind her back got even more "nice" because they were important to me. She complained, of course, but I had to give her this explanation of reality repeatedly, letting her see how ignorant she was, and still is (I sometimes have to keep reminding her, AND let her know I point it out to our son). I hope she trains our daughter better, but that's not really my department. My obligation is to my little man. He already gets the ladies, because I make sure he understands the "nice"/ "important" relationship.

It's important that people are nice to me.

It's nice when people realize how important I am.

As the New Year approaches, be planning for where you can be seen, who you will be with, and how you can stroke that man image.

Christmas Manly!

     Men! No...I'm not talkin to you, Christmas Sally, sippin cocoa with your lady and tucking your kids in...I mean YOU, football fan! Yes, you-out workin your Saturday night game in some local bar, trying to score the next gullible chick you can show off to your pre-teen son and rub in your ex-wife's face when your telling her how many of your problems are her fault. Now that I have your attention...Merry Christmas!

     It's been a while since I've written, I know. Things have been busy while I've tried to chase down my next big promotion. I'm pretty sure my ex wife has been screwing my plans over, because I know I'm impressive all the way around (especially to the women around me), and still no call-backs. Still, I keep at it, and let my son know how his mom is royally screwing him and me out of the man stuff that the world owes us.
 
      But being a man means persevering, and knowing that the world respects you for being manly. As a matter of fact, I just went to a weekend workshop, and didn't bother going to any of the waste-of-my-time classes, because I'm already smarter than all of them. Besides, I'm going to be their boss when I get promoted, so why learn the worker bee stuff? I just went to the nighttime fun bar stuff, did some networking and worked the lady-game. I have a couple guys around me who tell me I should be more careful. I shouldn't use work as my own personal lady farm, or use so much of my time riding my ex's case over phone, text and email. Especially when I tell her straight up what I think of her and what I hope happens to her. They swear that in a relatively small town, and in a profession where everybody in the county knows everyone else: people will know. They even try to tell me that my own behavior could be the root cause of all my problems, and that I'm setting a bad example for my son. Guess what? I think they are just jealous. They are nerds. They don't have my cool, and never will. My Christmas present to me, and all of you will be to stay awesome my friends! So hook me up and tell me how the season is treating you.

Wow...summer is almost over! Just because there is less daylight and lower temperatures, though, doesn't mean the manly meter has to dip...straighten that back, stick out that chin and put the manly gleam back in your eye. Take a minute to share your recent feats of manliness!

Here's a message I got from someone who wants to be a man, he's just not sure how to do it in the situation he's in. Let's see if there's any help for him:

Alex, I need some advice on how to be more of a man.I have taken the normal manly steps, but I've been at it for like three years and I'm not sure I've gotten any more manly. Here's what I have done:

1) I hooked up with some girls from work.

2) I left my wife and kids to be a pretend bachelor for a summer
3) I gave her a reasonable deadline to let me come home
4) I let her know she is only hurting the children by not giving me my way
5) I tell her all the ways she does not measure up to all the ladies I try to hook up with.
6) I email and text her all the time to let her know how not letting me do what I want, when I want with the kids makes her look like a colossal unreasonable loser and how she is possibly missing out on the best man and father ever.
7) I have told her how, when someone at her work sees my many,many horrible emails about her, they will know the truth about her and how she refused to let the best guy ever have his way. 

I think she is just stung by the pain of my rejection, because everyone I know tells me how great I am. Does she not see it because there's something wrong with her? Will she ever come around?

Thanks for you help- Minnesota Man

This is my response, but any other ideas might help. That's what makes us men!

Minnesota,

You have been very busy! In fact, you are so busy, and trying so hard, that you appear to be more like a needy,whiny, resentful man-boy. I'm not saying that to be mean, but when you get stuck on that mouse-wheel you will never be happy. You will always look for someone else, or something more (like a higher position at work-not because you want it, but because you can't play well with others and would raher just try and be their boss).When something isn't working, you try something else. Focus on actually BEING more awesome, not pretending to be, or just telling everyone how awesome you are.

Summer coming brings to mind some of the best parts about being a man. It means more time at the sports bar with my other truly awesome man friends. Now they may not be quite as awesome as me (don't tell them, they wouldn't agree), but we all live by the same basic man principals:

1) Make sure wives know that the kids need to come first for them. Whether you are still the master of their domain, or out on the prowl (or both!), they would rather be taking care of the kids anyway. So get the kids once in a while, when you have to, and get them ESPECIALLY when it enhances your awesomeness. By this I mean when it makes you look like a responsible guy and a great father to others-especially a new lady. The ladies dig a guy who appears to be a great dad.

2) Control the schedule. Agreed upon visitation schedules, vacation plans, restraining orders...these things are formalities that restrain the realities of people who are either ladies, or men that should be ladies. You know-not awesome. Show up when you want or don't, if a last minute chance to work on a new girlfriend comes up OR if you find out your ex is trying to take a chance to "have some time for herself" to do something-that's when it's time to remind her that fun and freedom are benefits of manhood. Demand time when YOU want-not when the courts say, cancel when the ex seems to be forgetting her role or when the kids might cramp your style.

3) Try to keep up appearances. Kids have summers off from school, and your friends will know this. Be seen with your sons in public at a park or game once in a while, especially if the girl you're scoping will be there. It'll make everyone around see how awesome you are, and what a fool your ex was for letting a stud like you go! If you have girls you can be seen with them if you want, or just tell people you've done something nice for your daughters. That'll make you look good, and you can say your ex wouldn't let you have the time you're supposed to have (or something).

Stay manly my friends!

The Best Occupations for Men of Power

      You know, I was thinking-something I'm incredibly good at, because I'm a real man. And I got to wondering if I could possibly be more influential-you know, spread my word and knowledge to make the world a better place.There are some manly occupations, but the mission for us men should be to improve the world if possible, and do it by helping women and children see our greatness. If we have to actually remind them over and over, then that's our duty. Showing up on time, doing what we say we will, being respectful-all that is well and good, but real men do and tell. Seeking acceptance is a woman thing, and they are happiest when a telling and doing man accepts them. This is one of the problems I had with my first ex: she failed to seek my acceptance and it ultimately led to her unhappiness. The girl she caught me with understood this.
      Those quiet, traditional man jobs are very self-fulfilling, but they do little to spread the blessing of men and their clear, logical rightness. What should men do to make the world a better place? How can their women support them?

The Greatness of Men

It's a daily struggle, getting the recognition us men deserve for the the great things we do. Often we get exactly the opposite, resistance to our clarity and logic. The important thing is (and always is) knowing we are right. You can't argue with the evidence that shows we are right. Part of the evidence is we are men-that just makes us right. The rest is cumulative. Over time our consistence and persistence just makes us right. My two ex-wives and the last girlfriend I have know this,although they won't admit it. Even as I was moving out of my last girlfriend's apartment for some silly girl thing she brought on herself, she knew I was right and didn't realize that the ladies I work with all knew it more than her. My kids know I'm right-at least my sons do. After long months of telling them how foolish their mothers are, they are finally starting to see the light. I'm pretty sure my daughter understands her father is right, but I don't really talk to her that much. I usually have her stay with a neighbor or someone on my weekends while I take the boys out. In the long run, the ex wives, girlfriends and children come to see that strong men are the center of their universe and need to be clung to and agreed with. Without them, they wouldn't be ex-wives and girlfriends, and the children wouldn't be here. In a way, they owe their existence to men, and should be grateful. The men who come here to this forum come to share their thoughts, ask questions, get answers, and just a little recognition for how awesome men are.